These days, I see the same news every single day – somebody killed himself (or herself).
What can I say? I feel lucky that I am one of those people who survived the “wanting to kill self” dilemma or phase or episode. But it’s a continuing struggle everyday – because the truth is, the problems and challenges are still there.
I am a Christian… and that helps a lot when dealing with suicidal thoughts. However, this blog post is not just intended for Christians who want to kill themselves. So please, even if you are not a Christian, see what I have to say here. I have written down 15 reasons not to kill yourself – and it’s applicable to every human being.
I Wanted to Kill Myself, But Didn’t
I am glad I did not kill myself. And I hope I will never think about suicide again.
How to stop suicidal thoughts? I believe you will find the reasons listed down below useful as you contemplate about hurting yourself. I am mindful of the reasons for wanting to commit suicide – it can be due to mental problems (depression, anxiety, etc.) and it can also be a disease (chemical imbalance in the brain or something like that).
Maybe, you are being bullied at school (that’s very common these days). Or maybe you have an identity crisis (this is another common problem, especially with teenagers). AND – it can also be about something unexplainable. I told you, I’ve been there, and I can relate.
Reason #1 – No More Sunrise
Yeah, I know it sounds corny… but don’t you just love the sunrise? Every sunrise, every day, gives us new hope. Look at the sunrise and feel its energy. and you will feel renewed. Now, do that everyday.
Reason #2 – Think of Your Family
Your family loves you and will miss you when you die. It’s always painful when a family member dies, especially if the cause of death is suicide. They will blame themselves for not being able to help you. Do you really want to put them through that? I hope not.
Reason #3 – Is it for Revenge?
Do you want to hurt someone (family, friend, loved one) by hurting yourself? Well, that’s not a very good reason to kill yourself. First of all, if they really care about you, they will be deeply hurt – so if you care about them, you will not allow them to get hurt because of you. And what if they don’t really care? – Well, that will defeat the purpose of your revenge because they won’t care a bit. See? – it’s a lose-lose situation.
Reason #4 – Do You Have Pets?
I have a lot of pets – mostly dogs, and I really love them. These lovely pets are under my care and I want to continue taking care of them and loving them. So, if you have pets, think about them too. I really hope you wouldn’t want to abandon them. Also, if you don’t have pets yet, it’s really nice to have one – you might want to consider getting a dog or a cat or a mouse or whatever you like… it really helps with the depression thingy.
Reason #5 – Think of Your Friends
Do you have friends? If you do, know that they need you and want you to keep on living. There’s something about the presence of friends that comforts us. Consider yourself lucky if you have at least one friend (yeah, you really don’t need a lot). Go to your true friends when you’re feeling lost and down, and I’m sure they’ll do everything they can to help and support you.
Reason #6 – Think of Your Community
Ok, this may sound a bit corny too, especially if you are not sociable. But then, if you are considering killing yourself, why not just make yourself useful to the community? If you feel you are at the end of your rope, it’s anything goes, right? Giving back to your community can put things in perspective again. Try it – you can volunteer for some work or join a club or organization.
Reason #7 – Think About the Things You Love
When you’re sad and depressed and feel out-of-sync with the rest of the world, consciously think of the things you love – it can be music, nature, food, pets, etc. Expose yourself to those things when you are feeling down and you can get out of that “gloomy feeling” in time.
Reason #8 – So You Really Have a Big Problem
This one is obvious, but it won’t seem obvious when you are at that stage when you want to kill yourself – suicide is NOT the solution. I assure you that there are other solutions out there. Just know that and accept that as a fact, ok?
Reason #9 – Death is Final
Well, I hope you don’t think that killing yourself would mean existing again in another life or another form and then things will get better. No, you won’t be reincarnated. You will be raised to life again on judgment day and will have to face God. We have a merciful and just God, but please don’t break His heart by taking your own life because He gave it to you as a gift.
Reason #10 – So, You Want Relief From Your Pain?
I am familiar with the pain of depression and I know it’s hard to explain, it’s not even physical pain, that’s why there are no pain relievers for it. Still, these episodes pass away naturally, so just hold on and trust that you will feel better again – soon! Oh, but it helps to ask for help (from friends, family, doctors, counselors, etc.)
Reason #11 – It Will Get Better
Are you a Christian? If you are, be aware of the fact that God has a lot of promises in the Bible (please read your Bible). God promises to be there for you, and He is close to the brokenhearted (how cool is that?). If you know that God is with you as you go through your problems, the pain will be lessened and it will eventually go away. Now, if you are not a Christian, please seek Jesus and He will make the pain disappear.
Reason #12 – You Are Not The Only One
I know there’s a stigma to all this – depression is a problem that is still looked down by society. The normal people don’t really understand this and they can be judgmental, self-righteous and even arrogant about it – but don’t mind them. This problem is actually common (studies reveal that 1 out of 3 persons suffer from depression at some point in their lives). It’s really confusing for everyone who is affected by depression. However, there are available help for this problem, so just don’t be afraid to admit your problem and seek for help or solutions for it.
Reason #13 – Focus on the Beauty of Life
When you are not going through depression or anxiety or unexplainable sadness and pain – don’t you just find the world (and your life) beautiful? When I see my lovely dogs playing, and hear birds singing, and simply look at beautiful flowers – I realize that it’s a wonderful world. So look around you and seek for the beautiful things in your life. Focus on those and not on your problems, and you will feel less burdened and less problematic and less sad.
Reason #14 – Think of Your Life Story and Write a Beautiful Ending
We all have a unique life story – and it’s not over ‘til it’s over. No matter what age you are, you can still make your life more exciting and more meaningful. Yeah, don’t let this depression thing beat you and make the ending of your life story tragic. Do everything in your power to have a beautiful ending – that is sooo much nicer, right?
Reason #15 – You Have Jesus
Ok, I saved the best reason for last, so I hope you have made it this far into this blog post. When I was in pain (not physical pain) and thought that there was no one there for me, I knew I had Jesus. This thought, this knowledge, kept me alive. How? – because I surrendered all my pain to Him and asked for His help. Yes, I wanted to end it all and end all the pain too, but since I trusted Jesus instead, He took over (and it worked!). So now I know the formula – when I feel down and broken and depressed and sad and lost – I turn to Jesus, ask for His help and let Him handle all my troubles. It always works…. that’s why I am still alive…. that’s why I am thankful to God and want fellow depression sufferers to know about this “secret” formula.
We Can’t Snap Out of It…. But We Can Stop Ourselves From Hurting Ourselves and Others
I know too well that we can’t just snap out of feeling blue and sad and depressed and anxious. What I know is that we can consciously stop ourselves from harming ourselves (and our loved ones, friends, and community as well).
Help is available – and you shouldn’t be ashamed to ask for help. There are lots of people who are willing to help others (yes, these are selfless, thoughtful and caring people – they truly exist!).
There is also our invisible God. We can’t see Him, but He is there. And if you seek God, you will be able to feel His powerful presence in your life. This will make you stronger, braver and more able to handle depression and other problems in life.
I really hope this blog post was able to help you. And if there is anything else I can do for you, feel free to contact me.